Identity & relational Issues
how do you relate to yourself and others?
How we feel and think about ourselves significantly impacts everything we experience in life. How we feel and think about ourselves is greatly shaped by our upbringing, our attachment styles, and our sense of belonging and connection to others. I truly believe we can be loved by others, even when we find it so difficult to love ourselves. With that being said, you deserve to find that love and acceptance for yourself, for yourself. This pursuit can be one of the hardest endeavors, but it is the most essential.
For those of us who struggle with feeling our own sense of identity and who might have depended on presenting ourselves a certain way to survive, it may be so hard to know how to love ourselves when we aren’t really sure who we are OR we are terrified that by honestly showing who we are, we might not be accepted or loved by others. We may not feel we are enough.
Our relationship to ourselves may also impact the relationships we have with others. We may constantly feel worried about others abandoning or rejecting us. We might be hypervigilant to others emotions at all times, molding ourselves constantly to keep what feels like conflict at bay. We might desire closeness but pull away out of fear when things feel too intimate.
However this may show up for you, we can work together to find your way back to loving and accepting yourself. We can work together to help you better tolerate your sense of self both together and separate from others. Together, we can be with the thoughts, feelings, and experiences that have impacted your sense of self, get to understand where they come from and how they were developed, and work towards developing a stronger and more secure sense of identity.
